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Posted by Sofie

November 7th 2010

William - You have changed my life with two sentences. I have been able to put a perspective on why a man in a committed relationship would have an affair. Thank you and now I plan to buy the book (All the Hopeful Lovers). "The act of sex happens outside himself. It’s something he throws away." rom: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-1325947/William-Nicholson-A-mans-view-ultimate-betrayal.html

William Nicholson responded:

I'm grateful for your response. I know not everyone welcomes my views, but it's good to know that some do. You'll find in the book there's much more from the man's point of view about the process of having an affair (and from the woman's). I hope you find it of some value, or at least, of some interest.

Posted by Lee

November 7th 2010

Fantastic view on ‘why men betray’. Now imagine your lovely wife having 'just a fling' with another man. It should not bother you because she, of course, doesn't love him. Don't worry though she will come home to you. Thing is could you really accept it?!! Cheating is wrong, end of. Stop writing shit and stop filling venerable peoples head full of shit.

William Nicholson responded:

Sorry if I didn't make myself clearer in my article for the Mail on Sunday's You magazine. Everything I suggested that means a woman might manage to accept a man's infidelity applies the other way round, to a man accepting his wife's infidelity. Could I accept it if it happened to me? I don't know, but I hope so. My relationship with my wife is very strong, and I'd be losing more than I could bear if I were to break with her. I would not, I think, reject her if she were unfaithful. She would have to order me away, and under such circumstances probably would. I realise that you believe, simply and clearly, that cheating is wrong. Yes, it is. The question is, when it happens, what do you do? Do you terminate what may be a long and deeply intertwined relationship. I think your answer is yes, cheating is a non-negotiable breach of trust, and no marriage can survive it. You may be right - certainly I can't and don't claim any superior knowledge to yours - but I hope there are ways that some marriages can survive even such a crisis.

Posted by victoria

November 7th 2010

i love your wind on fire trilogy, its absolutley delightful. thanks for the awesome read.

William Nicholson responded:

Thanks for the awesome compliment.

Posted by mary evans

November 6th 2010

Hi. I just wanted to let you know how much I'm enjoying Hopeful Lovers (aren't we all ?! - hopeful lovers I mean) I was most interested to read the male rationalisation of Tom's affair, as he explained it to his wife as well as his thoughts. In fact I could almost accept it - though possibly not if I was Belinda ! I'm sure there are probably some women who feel as he did, to justify an affair. I, too find human interactions within relationships totally fascinating and though I read mostly non-fiction I find your characters and their actions totally plausible and intelligently written. Thank you. I will be sorry to finish the book but hope these characters have more life in subsequent books. (Just one small observation, why does everyone seem to have 2 children, a boy and a girl ?)

William Nicholson responded:

You're right about the number of children - I'll have to see what I can do about that. I'm delighted you're enjoying - and believing - my characters. Did you read the first book, The Secret Intensity of Everyday Life? If not, you can go back and meet Chloe and Jack and Alice at the age of 11. And there's a new book on the way.

Posted by Jan Eastwood

November 4th 2010

Hi Bill, I don't expect you to remember me but many years ago we worked on Lovelaw in Britain together, I was the Production Assistant. I just wanted to let you know that I read your book 'The Secret Intensity of Everyday Life' and thoroughly enjoyed it. You write brilliantly from a woman's perspective; Laura's shopping trip to London was amazing - how do you do it and where did you get the idea for the book?

William Nicholson responded:

A pleasure to hear from you after so long. And I'm so pleased you liked the book. You might like the sequel, 'All the Hopeful Lovers', which takes some of the same characters a few years later. I'm trying to write a sort of chronicle of our times, seen through the lives of one group of people. The women's perspective is really important to me - you'll remember from my days in the BBC I was always fascinated by love, sex, relationships. I still am.

Posted by Jonas Hope Djursvoll

November 3rd 2010

Hello i am making a powerpoint about the book the wind singer. It was a very good book and it could be fun if you could write back. Im fro Norway and are maybe not so good at English. In Norway the wind singer is named vind sangeren.

William Nicholson responded:

This is me writing back. I hope you have as much fun with your Powerpoint as I had writing the book. You could make up some better oaths in Norwegian.